People are Quick to Judge When They Don’t Find Something They Can Relate To.

I’ve been a victim of this. Of people rejecting me all together because they don’t relate to me, they can’t find something impressive they like or they just don’t like what I’m into, therefore, they either don’t like me or they just don’t appreciate me and judge me for who I am, only because they can’t relate to me.

I watched Netflix’s film, “The social Dilemma”, which in part, discusses the fact that we’re so involved in our own world and what we like, that we ignore what’s outside of what we know, and because we ignore this, we tend to get used to just knowing and being involved in what we like, resulting in separation, because we tend to not like it when something goes against what we know, forgetting to be open minded, and forgetting to acknowledge the idea of being around people who are different from who we are.

Things like these don’t just happen in high school either, it can literally happen anywhere, at any age. Even after high school, I’ve met ignorant individuals who have wanted me to change the way I think, and the way I am entirely, just to satisfy this idea they have of the people they’re surrounded with, which is incredibly terrible. These individuals have made me feel shitty, and like who I am is wrong and unacceptable and that people won’t like me or appreciate me because of the way I currently am, therefore, I have to change for other folks to like me.

but I never cared for them to like me.

Honestly, that’s a lie, it completely bothered me that they didn’t like me for who I am: which is an honest, emotional human being, who stands up for what she believes in, and is going for what she desires completely. I am someone who loves to think positive, believes in the law of attraction and love to inspire and motivate other people. Unfortunately though, I am not yet surrounded with the people I want to be around with (those who make me better), but that doesn’t mean I have to adjust my beliefs, my way of thinking and my way of being entirely, to satisfy someone else’s view, it’s completely wrong and it goes against my entire being.

Usually, I don’t mind being around different minded people. I appreciate differences and accept them. It allows me to grow as an individual and it doesn’t keep me closed in my circle, it keeps me aware that there are different worlds out there and it keeps me more open minded of people who aren’t like me. Which is not only what I want but what I want for whoever is around me. How sucky is it to feel like you don’t be long in an environment? It’s the worst feeling ever!

I’ve realized though, that people who judge you because of something they can’t relate to are either insecure or because they experience the same pain they’re passing on to you, and as the saying goes, “hurt people, hurt people.” It might not even be about you all together, it might be a reflection of how they’re feeling and the only way those horrible people feel empowered, is to make you feel shitty about yourself, even if they’re doing it intentionally, which still, doesn’t make it okay.

I just want to hopefully, make you aware that sometimes, what mean people say, says more about who they are and their insecurities than about what they say about you. It’s just sometimes we take it personally becuase we’re not really aware of these things in the moment (I know I’m not), and we tend to just want to protect ourselves and stand up for us, which can cause a lot of trouble…. but it’s avoidable.

Sometimes conserving your energy for better things it’s healthier than focusing on those horrible people.

I hope this inspired you,



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I’m an actress in pursuit of happiness and finding my truth. Through my writing I am able to release my thinking without being judged or having the need to impress people in this crazy world we’re living in. I hope that through my experience I inspire you to find your truth and version of happiness.

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  1. Guilty of focusing on horrible people. 😊 But I can relate to this as an artist who works in an abstract form. My work picks up on the idea that people become outraged at a harmless thing simply because they aren’t expecting it. Being around people who are not the same helps us to solve problems faster.

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