It’s Okay to not like what your friends like, it’s okay to not go for what’s trendy, it’s okay to not eat a certain type of food, it’s okay to not study something you don’t want to study, it’s okay to read a book Oprah’s not reading, it’s okay to sleep whenever you want to sleep. It’s okay to do whatever you want to do, as long as it makes you happy.
Sometimes I find people being ashamed for not being interested into something that everyone else is doing. They don’t like owning their individuality, as if being a rose in a sack full of lilies is a bad thing. Their energy becomes apologetic when they tell me they like eating more steak instead of chicken, for example.
When I first decided to become an actress, everyone, and I mean literally everyone I knew, disapproved. First, It began with my family, then my “friends”, later my school counselor, everyone in my circle strongly disapproved of my decision to pursue an acting career. I became very ashamed of stating I was going to pursue an acting career, I was angry at myself for choosing acting, I felt there was something wrong with me, as if I didn’t deserve it. I didn’t want people asking me because I was embarrassed, since I knew what their response was going be. I was angry at myself and ashamed for choosing something not everyone liked; and I just kept asking, “why can’t I be like everyone else?”
Now, I am glad I’m not like everyone else, I believe I was born to stand out and be different. my mentality isn’t like everyone else for a reason I don’t know yet, and though sometimes I find myself struggling to relate, I consider myself a happy human being for following my intuition and deciding to not become like everyone else, I stopped desiring for sameness because I realize that predictability, can sometimes become dull, bland and lame. I find myself disinterested in something everyone else likes and sometimes people justify this by explaining that, “everyone liking what everyone else likes” is a form of survival; it can keep you in the crowd, but it won’t make you happy.
I’m learning that you have to own what you do, be proud of who you are and what you like and don’t like. There will always be someone who disapproves, someone who dislikes what you’re doing and someone who will gossip about it behind your back while praising you to your face. There will always be a hater, someone who is jealous and someone who will go out of their way to make you unhappy. You have to be strong enough to not let them get to you and have the strength to continue living your most happiest life, because this is how you kill the negative energy in your life and how you kill them with kindness.
love yourself and what will meant to be, will follow.