For this book, I decided to get a little more involved and take notes to be a little more in-depth when writing about the books I’ve been reading. Since I’ve been meaning to take out the quotes that spoke to me, I’ve become a little more focused. I am gaining more knowledge due to me purposely increasing my attention span towards my reading materials, I love it!
Okay, here we go:
“owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.” Brene Brown.
This was one of the first, of the many quotes that stuck with me while reading this book. It’s my life’s purpose for my happiness and the entire reason why I created this blog. Reading this quote gave me the feeling that I was really going to enjoy this book.
One of my favorite statements that’s written in the book: How much we know and understand ourselves is critically important, but there is something that is even more essential to living a whole hearted life: loving ourselves.
Through Brene’s own personal experience this book helped me become a little more courageous in accepting myself and owning my individuality. I’ve accepted what other people believe are my faults as things that make me uniquely special, and for that I am genuinely happy about who I am becoming.
Top three key words in this book: Courage, Compassion, Connection.
This is my take on it: If we’re courageous enough to show our imperfections and be vulnerable for us to unburden ourselves, we’d not only be compassionate with ourselves and our emotions but also people would see how open we are and we create connections through our vulnerability.
from experience: as I’ve mentioned in one of my post, I am currently doing Crossfit. I have moved up from foundations (beginners) to being with everyone else, (people that have been working out for a lot longer than I have). for a couple to days straight, while working out, I’d get nauseous. so nauseous that it began to get difficult to continue my workout, it became really challenging to continue wmy work out, I’d give in to my state and sit frustrated at myself. My coaches noticed this behavior, but I kept brushing off their concern through gritted teeth and teary eyes, because I thought it was just a no-biggie phase and it would pass. After yet another nauseous moment, I decided to stop before it got worse, and I decided to approach my coach about it. I started to bawl like a five-year old, I had been holding into that for a while, and the moment of speaking about it was not only incredibly difficult, but was very freeing. every other trainee noticed and they all became very supportive and encouraging into my process, and also reminded me how I’ve just begun the training process. my body isn’t as developed as everyone else’s, and so because of that, as much as it’s helpful to stretch yourself, it’s better to “listen to your body.”
I’ve been happily listening to my body since.
See? I was courageous, I received compassion and, I not only connected with people, but people connected with me.
Another thing that spoke to me: I found this excerpt in one of her chapters, “owning our story can be hard, but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it.”
“Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy – the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we’re brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
“If we want to live and love with our whole hearts and if we want to engage with the world from a place of worthiness we have to talk about the things that get in the way especially shame, fear and vulnerability.”
I have come to believe that owning who you are and accepting, and embracing your imperfections set you free and actually makes you a stronger person.
It’s a lot harder to put up a front, hold your emotions inside when something difficult is happening, is a lot more work to pretend you’re okay and to bottle up what you’re actually feeling inside.
Brene experienced a shameful talk where the supervisor told her to not even mention shame. To talk about the light and breezy subject of “how to” live a joyful life. But then, she asks, “ why is “how-to” so alluring when truthfully we already know “how-to” yet we’re still standing in the same place longing for more joy, connection and meaning.
We know how to work out, how to eat healthy and save money, and we know how to take care of ourselves. Yet we are the most obese, medicated, addicted and in-debt Americans ever. It’s easier to stay in, watch TV while eating a bowl of ice-cream and disconnect than to talk about your issues, go to the gym and workout daily, specially if you’re sore, and cooking a healthy meal.
it’s about the choice to show up and be real, the choice to be honest. the choice to let our true selves be seen.
This was such a good book, I not only recommend it, I’d read it twice, or thrice after my challenge, there is so much more to talk about this book, I certainly don’t want to spoil anything for you (that is if you do decide to read it) but I’ll leave you with this:
E.E. cummings wrote “to be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody but yourself, means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight, and never stop fighting.”