This book wasn’t a hard cover piece, or really anything I could actually grasp with my hands. This one I listened to, it was an audio book, I have had a couple of audio books piled up in my amazon audible app (Which I will eventually empty) but because I have been a bit stressed out about things that really mean nothing at all compared to world problems, I decided to go ahead and re-read it for a second time, yup, once more.
Side Note: I recommend getting your hands on a material that you’ve enjoyed reading and try giving it a go for yet another time. When I listened to this book for a second time, I felt like I understood it better, like the words were actually going through my brain now and were sticking with me. I found myself really laughing when the speaker threw in a joke, rather than just doing my errands blankly as if I hand’t heard a joke (which was how I listened to it on my first time)
anyway, to put it simply, In this book Mark Manson is simply stating that we can choose what to care, or not care about, that’s it.
“The art of not giving a fuck. Subtly.”
Its funny because I’ve been doing this for about a year now: I’ve been living my life focusing on what’s going right instead of dwelling on what’s going wrong, I just never realized that I can also use this practice with what I care/not care about. Being someone that cares just a little too much, It’s a bit challenging for me to not care about certain things in my life or in the world. When I focus on what’s working, it’s not like I don’t care about the rest of the world, I’m not narcissistic, I care a ton about everything, sometimes a little too much.
thank you, Universe, for making me a very caring human being, it’s both a blessing and a curse.
I feel like Mark Manson is the tough gym teacher every sensitive kid needs in their life (where were you when I needed you Mark?), he’s not sugar coating anything, actually he talks about how this particular book isn’t some step guide to your best, most happiest life, in fact he states that life isn’t great sometimes, and that THAT is totally fine. Its very liberating to have someone else admit this truth: a lot of people portray their best selves online and make it seem like their life is amazing (literally that’s everyone on social media) but sometimes it’s not so great and that’s totally okay.
He’s very straight forward, real honest about himself, and a no bull-shit type of guy, he reminds me of a New Yorker, straight to the point… but nicer. His range of different advice comes from his own true experiences. Becoming broke after college and starting an online business due to having nothing to lose, to experiencing the death of a friend that led him into being a lot more responsible to a breakup that made him a better man to later relationships and to admitting the true failure of just falling in love with the idea of being a musician and actually not enjoying the work it takes to get there.
This is what I learned from him: work towards the things that make you happy, because 1. There will always be someone or something that will disrupt your sense of peace, that is the balance of life. 2. You’re eventually going to die, life isn’t about just living it, it’s about looking back on your death bed and deciding wether you lived a good life or not. 3. Your life is yours to live and no one else’s, try making your life decisions based on what’s best for you and the things that make you happy in life, not on someone else’s approval, because outward opinions change on a dime.
I certainly recommend this book.