“You’re not good enough, you’re not pretty enough, what are you even doing here?”
Isn’t it so fucking annoying when these thoughts come into our consciousness?
Holy mother of God, would you just stop? I wish those thoughts were a person sometimes…so that I can get rid of them.
Wouldn’t that be so much better?
Why couldn’t that have been easier?
There goes my brain again, I really dislike those would have, should have, could have’s… they’re not helpful at all.
I am full of doubts, I constantly doubt myself, I sometimes I don’t feel good enough.. well I wouldn’t say sometimes… A LOT of times actually. I have doubts about this blog, I have doubts about my career, my future, my husband ( I dont even have a boyfriend haha!) my health, my finances, I have doubts constantly. That part of my brain is just there, I have learned to live with it and accept it and sometimes I start listening to it, which I shouldn’t (I did it again, NO!) which is also wrong because in the end, I am only hurting myself…
(Sad song playing in the background***)
I. AM. ONLY. HURTING. MYSELF.
I read this somewhere online,“Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we often might win by fearing to attempt.”
You are hurting yourself too.
Imagine if you listened to your negative thinking all of the time, do you believe you would be happy? Would you be someone you’d like to be?
See, the thing is, we can actually control our own thoughts. We can really say things like, STOP and you stop, or focus on what you’re doing and let those negative thoughts about yourself dissipate.
The brain is designed to protect you and make you comfortable. The minute you start getting a little bit uncomfortable, you’re brain will tell you, in all sorts of ways, to stop doing whatever it is that’s making you feel uncomfortable…including waking up early…
I believe 100% we’re responsible for our own actions, like I said in one of my earlier posts. Which means we’re also responsible for our negative actions as well… you might be saying something, “but I really can’t, it’s so hard.”
Not only are you being lazy, that’s your brain putting you in a comfort zone, you’re not growing if you’re really not taking the step of actually challenging yourself.
Sometimes people let situations get the best of them and people stop doing certain things and being responsible for their actions, as if there was someone else to blame; and start wishing things were different and better, I’m also talking about myself here.
Jim Rohn, for those of you who don’t know him, was an entrepreneur, author, and motivational speaker, he once said “Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better.”
And I couldn’t agree with him more, if we developed ourselves, worked on our minds. We would become better at handling situations differently than the usual victim-like scenario. We become better at not listening to that voice in the back of our heads telling us that everything is wrong with us. We are great just the way we are.
Think about this:
When you look at a baby, you believe that child is perfectly pure and beautiful, with everything they do, right? They’re just perfect… then why do you stop believing that in yourself? Would you talk to a child the way you talk to yourself?
Really think about it, would you really?
Louise Hay, a motivational author, someone who recently passed away just this year, taught me exactly that (unfortunately not in person.) But through her books and I have lessened this creature in my mind.
“He who says he can, and he who says he can’t, are both usually right.”
The questions is, who will you listen to?