We make decisions everyday, whether you’re aware of them or not, you are currently making them.
You have chosen to read this post! That’s a decision you made.
Not long ago, I thought I couldn’t decide for anything that happened to me, I thought that I wasn’t responsible for the things that I did or happened to me.
Boy was I wrong! (In a good way.)
As I mentioned in my earlier post, you’re 100% responsible for your actions. You decide how to take action and you decide 100% how to handle your circumstances.
Let’s say you recently broke up with someone you loved deeply, you thought you were going to marry this person, have kids with this person and grow old with this person… But it didn’t happen, you guys broke up. It doesn’t mean it might never happen in the future, you two are just not together in this moment anymore.
This can go two ways:
You can either let it break you, or make you…Better.
If you let this break up shake your center, and decide you don’t want to do anything at all: You quit your job, you don’t want to hang out with anybody anymore, you simply want to give up, you’ve lost all sense of meaning and value in your life. You’re are practically hitting rock bottom, you become lonely, depressed, you cannot pay your bills and so you become homeless (This might be a bit over the top, but you get where I’m going.) This literally broke you down.
This person didn’t take responsibility and decided to rely on their Ex for their sense of purpose and happiness, and now they have to live with these consequences.
“You are free to make whatever choice you want, but you are not free of the consequences.”
This person chose to give up, and is now at their rock bottom, unfortunately.
This is the other choice:
This break up fueled you to better yourself, work out, eat better, look better, do things that make you better, read books, hang out with friends, focus on your job, make more money to spoil yourself, go out to dinner with friends, get promoted, got to know yourself better, loved yourself more. Then you meet a new guy because you’ve built your confidence and are becoming a better you, you start falling for this guy and this guy falls for you, and because of this past break up you know the mistakes you made and you know not to make them again, and you guys get married and have babies and live happily ever after….
Or not…( One can only hope!)
But you DECIDED where it led your life.
You have to make choices with everything in life.
I am deciding to write this post, I decided to become an actress, I decided to create a blog, and inspire people. Everything up to this point in my life, I have decided.
Now, it’s up to you to decide, between turning situations into positives or negatives.
Nobody is going to take responsibility for you; for your actions, you have to be 100% responsible for yourself, and your happiness.
I say choose whatever is good for you, choose whatever makes you happy, choose to break out of the norm if you feel like fitting in isn’t working for you. I say choose to get rid of whatever isn’t working for you and choose to do what is.
“You must make the choice to take a chance or your life will never change, and you’re stuck with the consequences.”