It sucks sometimes, I get it. You think you’re not part of the group. Sometimes you feel like an outcast, you don’t feel loved, accepted, and you feel like you’re going to be feeling like that FOREVER.
I’ve felt like that A LOT and I can openly say it sucks and I never want people to feel like that. I don’t want you to feel like that and I wish I can take your loneliness away if you are feeling this way.
It happens at some point in life, and if you haven’t experienced it, GOOD FOR YOU! I hope you don’t go through it, but at some point; I think you might.
Like I said, I have felt alone A LOT in my life, as I mentioned in my earlier post, I’ve never been part of a group or at least I felt I was never part of a group. But I will go ahead and say that sometimes, being alone, is necessary for self-growth.
I am an introvert, and as an introvert, I love spending time alone; I call it my, “me time.”
When I spend time alone, I try to connect with my true self and strip away anything that isn’t beneficial for my soul.
Right now, I must say that, my “me time”, is great! Not only do I pamper myself, I do things I want, I get to make decisions that make me happy, doesn’t that sound great?
Not only do I get to do the things I want to do—-And I think this is important: But I get to figure out who I am and I get to know myself without someone else’s idea of me, and it’s super liberating.
It’s liberating to embrace your own emotions without having to feel like someone is judging you all the time. It’s liberating to feel that you’re cool and laugh at your own jokes without having to feel like you’re weird because your friends don’t understand it. It’s liberating because you get to be YOU 100% of the time, without worrying about anybody else but yourself.
That sounds so fucking amazing!
I don’t just mean NOT to hang out with your friends for a couple of hours and cut back from checking your social media to see what your friends are up to, I mean going off the grid for a bit, like maybe a day? You’re probably thinking “No I can’t do that, it’s simply not possible for me.” But this is you limiting yourself and not opening to the possibility of dealing with who you are.
Anyway, try being alone, embrace what you experience when you are alone. I believe being alone from time to time is necessary to grow and learn a about yourself, it’s a good learning experience, I promise!
I’m not going to pretend that it’s always fun to be alone, because frankly, it’s not! I have some low moments; sometimes I want someone to appreciate me for the way I am and make me feel good about who I am. But this won’t happen if you not only know who you are, but are happy with yourself, on your own.
Just imagine not having to change the way you think, or modify your opinion to satisfy someone else’s, because you’re NOT afraid of their disapproval of your choices; and you know what you can do if you’re ‘oh so satisfied with who you are without them…or anybody? you’ll be able to let them go and not be hurt the minute they decide they don’t want anything to do with you!
You can do it with anyone, with that friend that’s not making you happy… Bye! That boyfriend? Bye Bye!
Bye to not having to put up with things that make you unhappy.
Because you deserve better, you deserve happiness and you deserve to be allowed to do that thing you do that makes you happy, because you’re an incredible unique human being and the person that wants to be in your life, will be. They will make you happy, appreciate you, they won’t judge you and they will embrace your whole being…period!
Plus, isn’t it sexy to find someone who is completely independent of others, has a sense of knowing who they are, and a sense of control over themselves? Damn, I’d like someone like that!
Listen, the Universe has a funny way of working…once you stop working for it… it starts working for you.
Let the universe do her thing; surrender what you can’t control, and take charge of the things that you can control, and that is yourself and your happiness.
Don’t become a victim of someone else’s happiness, become the hero of your own happiness.